It is unfortunate when we allow fear to direct our decisions and actions. When I parent with fear I have that tone in my voice. You know that tone that you hear from other mothers and think to yourself, "Oh my gosh, I am sure I sound like that mother on occasion and I don't like the way that sounds."
Exchange fear for a couple different "f" word, FUEL, FUN AND FAITH. They will help you shred some fear.
I have a dictionary of encouragement. Here are a few more "f" words to savor.
Fabric - Do you wish to be great? Then begin in being. Do you desire to construct a vast and lofty fabric? Think first about the foundations of humility. The higher your structure is to be, the deeper must be its foundation. Saint Austine
Feed - Stop feeding the beast of inaction and eventually it will die of starvation.
A good intention but fixed and resolute - bent on high and holy ends, we shall find means to them on every side and at every moment; and even obstacles and oppression will but makes us "like the fabled specter-ships," which sail the fastest in the very teeth of the wind. Ralph Waldo Emerson
Spread JOY. Shred FEAR. Have FUN.